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Massage Candles 101

Posted by Maureen Pollack on

Welcome to Massage Candles 101, a beginner's guide to wax candle play, where we delve into everything you need to know about these luxurious candles that elevate your sensual experience to new heights.

Whether you're indulging in some self-care solo or sharing an intimate moment of sexual wax play with your partner, massage candles are a great addition to your self-care / pleasure routine.

What is a Massage Candle?

A massage candle is a unique type of candle that is specially formulated to melt into a warm, luxurious massage oil when lit. Unlike traditional candles, massage candles are made from a blend of natural oils that have a low melting point, allowing them to transform into a silky-smooth oil that's perfect for massaging into the skin. These candles are often infused with aromatic scents like lavender, vanilla, or sandalwood, adding an extra element of relaxation to your massage experience. 

ThreePlay Massage Candle by Lovability

What Is Sexual Wax Play?

Wax play is a type of consensual kink where you drip or pour hot wax on your or a partner's body, typically from a lit candle during sex. Massage candles are an excellent way to introduce wax play into a relationship as they have softer, relaxing textures as well as moisturizing benefits. Wax play candles, on the other hand, are made to elicit and elevate more erotic sensations such as pain and anticipation found in BDSM ("hurts so good").

What Are The Benefits Of A Massage Candle?

Massage candles offer a range of benefits that enhance the overall relaxation and sensory experience during a massage. Here are 6 key benefits of a massage candle:

  1. Moisturizing and Nourishing: Massage candles are made with a blend of natural oils and waxes that melt into a warm, silky oil when lit. These oils are deeply moisturizing and nourishing for the skin, leaving it feeling soft, smooth, and hydrated after the massage.

  2. Aromatherapy: Many massage candles are infused with aromatic and aphrodisiac scents like lavender, vanilla, or sandalwood, which can have therapeutic effects on the mind and body: reduce stress, promote relaxation, build arousal, and enhance the overall sensory experience during the massage.

  3. Warmth: The warm oil produced by massage candles provides a comforting and soothing sensation on the skin, helping to relax tense muscles and relieve stress and tension.

  4. Enhanced Sensation: The warm oil from massage candles enhances sensation and sensitivity on the skin, making the massage experience more pleasurable and enjoyable.

  5. Intimacy: Sharing an interactive massage with a partner - aka wax play - can promote intimacy and connection between partners, fostering a deeper bond and enhancing communication and trust.

  6. Relaxation: The act of receiving a massage, especially with the warm, soothing oil from a massage candle, can promote relaxation and reduce stress and anxiety, leading to an overall sense of well-being.

The best massage candles offer all of the above (which explains why they are often called "3-in-1 Candles"): engaging all of the senses at once; delivering seductive, mood-setting, and moisturizing benefits; and making it another of the everyday pleasure essentials for a more satisfying sex life - solo or with a partner(s).

How to Use a 3-in-1 Massage Candle

Using a massage candle is easy, but there are a few important steps to keep in mind to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience. Here's an easy step-by-step guide to using your massage candle:

Step 1: Set the Mood - Before lighting your massage candle, take a moment to set the mood. Dim the lights, put on some relaxing music, and create a cozy atmosphere that's conducive to relaxation and intimacy. The idea is to slow things down before you turn up the heat! 

Step 2: Light the Candle - Once you've set the mood, it's time to light your massage candle. Allow the candle to burn for a few minutes until a pool of warm oil forms on the surface.

Step 3: Extinguish the Flame - Once the pool of oil has formed, extinguish the flame and allow the candle to cool for a moment before using the oil for massage.

Step 4: Massage Away - Now it's time to indulge in a luxurious massage using the warm, silky oil from your massage candle. Gently pour the oil into your hands and massage it into your skin using long, flowing strokes. Focus on areas of tension and tightness, allowing the soothing warmth of the oil to melt away stress and tension.

Solo Massage Tips

If you're indulging in a solo massage, there are a few tips to keep in mind to enhance your experience:

Tip 1: Focus on Self-Care - Use your solo massage as an opportunity to practice self-care and pamper yourself. Take your time, listen to your body, and focus on areas that are in need of some extra TLC.

Tip 2: Experiment with Different Techniques - Don't be afraid to experiment with different massage techniques to find what feels best for you. Whether it's long, sweeping strokes or gentle kneading motions, listen to your body and adjust your technique accordingly.

Tip 3: Incorporate Aromatherapy - Take advantage of the aromatic scents of your massage candle by incorporating aromatherapy into your solo massage. Choose a candle with a scent that relaxes and soothes you, and allow the scent to envelop you as you indulge in your massage.

Partner Massage Tips

If you're sharing a massage with your partner, perhaps during foreplay or just for relaxation, there are a few additional tips to keep in mind to enhance your wax play experience:

Tip 1: Communicate Openly - Communication is key when sharing a massage with your partner. Talk openly about your preferences, likes, and dislikes, and don't be afraid to ask for feedback as you massage each other.

Tip 2: Take Turns - To ensure that both partners get to enjoy the benefits of the massage, take turns massaging each other. Start by massaging one partner, then switch roles and allow the other partner to take a turn in the massage. It's better to give than receive, right?

Tip 3: Set Boundaries - Before starting your partner massage, take a moment to set boundaries and establish what you're both comfortable with. Respect each other's boundaries and communicate openly if something doesn't feel right.

For How Long Does A Massage Candle Burn?

The burn time of a massage candle varies depending on the size of the candle, the nature and quality of the wax and wick, and the ambient temperature of the room. On average, a massage candle can burn for approximately 1-to-2 hours per ounce of wax. For example, a 4-ounce massage candle may burn for 4-to-8 hours.

Make sure to follow the manufacturer's instructions for optimal burn time and safety precautions, such as trimming the wick before each use and not burning the candle for more than a few hours at a time.

What Kind Of Oils Are Used To Make Massage Candles?

Massage candles are crafted using various types of oils. While there are a number of similarities among the oils, each offers unique benefits for the body and mind. Examples of oils used to make massage candles include:

Hemp Seed oil: With its moisturizing, anti-inflammatory, lightweight (non-greasy), and nutrient-rich properties, hemp seed oil offers exceptional skincare properties and health benefits.

Soybean oil: Rich in vitamin E and antioxidants, soybean oil rejuvenates the skin and promotes collagen production, reducing the signs of aging. It is lightweight and absorbs easily into the skin without leaving a greasy residue.

Jojoba oil: Similar to the skin's natural oils, jojoba oil is highly moisturizing and balances oil production, making it suitable for all skin types. It also has anti-inflammatory properties, soothing irritated skin and promoting relaxation during massages.

Coconut oil: Known for its moisturizing properties, coconut oil hydrates the skin deeply, leaving it soft and supple. It also has antimicrobial properties, making it ideal for sensitive skin.

Each of these oils adds a luxurious touch to massage candles while providing numerous benefits for the skin and overall well-being.

What Kind of Wax Is Used To Make Massage Candles?

Massage candles are typically made with either soy wax or bees wax as they have a lower melting point than traditional candle wax. The wax is primarily a "carrier" for the fragrance and either wax will do the job, but there are subtle differences between the two.

Soy wax is an eco-friendly, budget-friendly option that is known for its clean burn and strong scent throw; it's also softer. Beeswax is also a natural and non-toxic option that has a beautiful scent and longer burn time (because it's denser) but is more expensive.

Yes, you can mix beeswax and soy wax to extend the time of the burn and adjust the consistency of the wax. The ideal mixing proportion is mostly personal preference for smell, burn time, and feel. Because it's more expensive, many people simply add a small percentage of beeswax as a slight hardener to extend burn time.

Are Massage Candles Safe?

While massage candles are generally safe to use, there are a few VERY important safety precautions to keep in mind:

Rule 1: Only Use A Candle Designated For Sex Play - Massage candles are oil-based, formulated to burn a couple of degrees above body temperature so they do not get as hot as regular candles and - if used properly - won't burn your skin. DO NOT USE ANY OLD CANDLE FROM YOUR BATHROOM, BEDROOM OR KITCHEN!

Rule 2: Never Leave a Burning Candle Unattended - Always supervise your massage candle while it's burning and never leave it unattended. This helps prevent accidents and ensures a safe massage experience.

Rule 3: Check the Temperature - Before pouring the oil onto your skin, check the temperature of the oil to ensure it's not too hot. Test a small amount on the inside of your wrist to gauge the temperature before applying it to larger areas of your body.

Rule 4: Avoid Sensitive Areas - Avoid applying massage oil to sensitive areas of the body, such as the face, vagina, or open wounds. Stick to larger muscle groups like the back, shoulders, and legs for a safe and enjoyable massage experience. While massage candles are great for male masturbation (i.e., handjobs), they should NOT to be used as a personal lubricant.

Rule 5: If You're Planning To Have Sex With A Condom - If you're using a massage candle during foreplay, make sure you wash the candle oil from the skin wherever applied with soap and water before using a latex condom. Similar to oil-based lubes, oils from a massage candle can quickly and significantly degrade the latex and cause it to break or leak.


And there you have it – everything you need to know about massage candles and how to get the most out of your candle, whether you're enjoying a solo massage or sharing an intimate or kinky moment with your partner. With the right techniques and safety precautions, massage candles can elevate your sensual experience and provide a luxurious touch of relaxation to your everyday routine.

So go ahead, light up your favorite massage candle, and indulge in a moment of pure bliss.

ThreePlay Massage Candle by Lovability


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