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The holiday of lurve is upon us, which means the chocolate roses and heart-shaped home decor are out in full force. But instead of playing it safe and gifting the same old stuff every year, why not add a little bit of spice to your V-Day gift list?

Whether you’re buying something special for your partner, showering your squad for Galentine's Day, or indulging in some self-love this February 14th, these spicy treats will certainly bring the heat.

1. Aphrodisiacs 

5. Inconspicuous Storage

Everyone has a drawer—you know the one we're talking about—that contains all the naughty things you'd rather not have lying around the house. Give your bedroom that extra sprinkle of privacy it needs with a discreet storage box designed to hold all your sexiest trinkets. This vibrant silicone pouch from Babeland comes in three sizes and is perfect for hiding all your dirty little secrets.

6. Erotica Subscription

This one's for the bookworms in the house. Whether you're a fan of romance, erotica, or a little bit of both, there’s something for everyone at an audio erotic subscription service like Dipsea. 

Choose from exclusive stories from nearly every genre imaginable (vampires, anyone?) and let your imagination wander. A subscription to this female-founded platform makes the perfect gift for anyone who loves to immerse themselves in a world of steamy fiction.

7. Power & Pleasure Pack

In our opinion, there are two things every sexually empowered gal can't live without: lube and condoms. Make sure everyone in the group chat is armed with the necessities for a good time this V-Day with our Power & Pleasure Pack.

This bundle contains a pack of three condoms, a reusable carrying tin, and our HALLELUBEYAH® ORGANIC aloe lubricant. And the best part? All the contents are body-safe and made with all-natural ingredients, so you can feel good about getting it on.

8. Love Towels

Post-coitus clean-up isn't the sexiest activity. But having an ultra-soft, absorbent towel designed especially for the occasion on hand can make it a heck of a lot more enjoyable. Tushy Bamboo Bum Towels are not only environmentally friendly, but they're also naturally anti-bacterial, making them perfect for all kinds of intimate moments.

9. Roleplaying Gear

Don't let February 14th pass by without giving yourself a chance to bring your fantasies to life. Even something as subtle as a lacy masquerade mask or a pair of silky restraints can send your bedroom game to the next level. From frisky police officers to naughty babysitters, you can unleash your wildest desires with the help of some risqué role playing gear.

10. Booster Sex Pillow

Getting intimate is all about the angles. Give your lovemaking sessions a boost with a discreet wedge pillow. These specially designed cushions are the perfect tool for exploring all those extra-special positions, and this sex pillow from Dame provides just the right amount of support.

11. Mega Perfect Pack

If you really want to give the gift of spice this Valentine's Day, look no further than Mega Perfect Pack.  Lovability partnered with leading lingerie brand Hanky Panky® to bring you this super-hot bundle containing everything you need for the perfectly planned night of passion and pleasure.

Inside, you'll find: two Hanky Panky® thongs (one classic, one crotchless), HALLELUBEYAH® lubricant, 3 Condoms + Tin, and three of Quickies™ premium personal towelettes—basically everything you need to ensure maximum fun on V-Day. 

12. Silky Bedding

Is there anything sexier than slipping into bed with some silky sheets? We don't think so. Nothing upgrades your bedroom like a luxurious set of bedding, and this sheet set from MYK Silk is the perfect way to treat yourself (or your partner) to a night of sensual luxury. The hypoallergenic mulberry silk fabric will keep you cool throughout all those steamy moments.

13. Lingerie Subscription

For the girl who loves to add a little flair to her lingerie drawer, a subscription to a service like The Queen Box from Empress Mimi is just the thing. Every month, you'll get a surprise set of wire-free lingerie personalized for your size and style preferences delivered right to your doorstep. It's like Valentine's Day never ends!

14. Bringing Sexy Bath Kit

Baths can be a deeply sensual experience—especially when you have all the right products. Lovability's signature Bringing Sexy Bath Kit contains everything you need for a night of luxurious bath pleasure: our ThreePlay Massage Candle, Bomb Balm Arousal Balm, a Lovability Micro Fiber Hair Towel Wrap, and our viral body-safe sex toy, the WaterSlyde. Trust us, you won't want bath time to end.

Don’t Forget To Spoil Yourself

Valentine's Day is about celebrating love—and that includes self-love! You don't need to be in a serious relationship (or even a casual situationship) to indulge in the holiday. Whether you spend it with a lover, girlfriends, or solo, take this opportunity to give your body and spirit some much-deserved pampering with our spicy selection of goodies.

About The Author

Emily Blackwood is a freelance journalist committed to answering the plaguing question of what makes us truly happy. Turns out, it's a lot. Her work has been published in SELF, HuffPost, and YourTango. You can learn more here.

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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other health-care professional.

Between internships, classes, and making all sorts of grandiose decisions about your future, babies are probably the last thing you have on the brain. But if you’re sexually active (and not trying to become a parent anytime soon), then birth control should definitely be on your radar.

Though it feels like your campus health center is only equipped to handle the occasional cold or flu, they can actually hook you up with some pretty sweet birth control options, too. And whether they advertise it, many colleges offer free or low-cost birth control to students—even if you don't have insurance.

So if you’re sexually active or think you might want to be, consider this your birth control roadmap, guiding you to all the resources you need to make informed decisions about your sexual health.

Contraceptives Do Not Prevent STIs

Before we dive in, remember that contraceptives are designed to keep an unwanted pregnancy at bay but they will not protect you from STIs. Condoms are the only form of birth control that reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs. And while condoms are highly effective at protecting against most STIs (such as chlamydia and gonorrhea), they do not protect you from all STIs (for example, herpes, genital warts, and syphilis can spread from skin-to-skin contact). So wrap it up, babe, and get familiar with how to protect against, test for, and treat STIs.

Types Of Birth Control (And How To Find It)

The landscape of birth control has changed a lot in recent years, with new choices becoming available and old favorites becoming easier to access. But as much as science has advanced the birth control buffet, one v-serious caveat remains: no method is 100% effective.

Risk of pregnancy and STIs can never be completely eliminated when it comes to sex. But using birth control can help reduce the likelihood.

There are dozens of contraceptives out there, but they tend to fall into two camps:

• Hormonal: Methods that rely on shifting your hormones to prevent pregnancy.
• Non-Hormonal: Methods that physically block sperm from getting to your eggs.

The kind of birth control you ultimately choose is a very personal decision, and there are pros and cons to each method. All will require a prescription from a doctor, which you can visit at:

• Your campus health center
• A free or low-cost clinic like Planned Parenthood
• Your primary care physician or your OBGYN, if you have one
• Online via a virtual birth control service like Nurx.

Hormonal Birth Control

This kind of contraceptive uses synthetically made hormones to prevent your ovaries from releasing eggs. Different methods do this in different ways, but no eggs = no pregnancy.

While hormonal birth control is pretty effective at keeping that bun out of the oven, it doesn't protect against STIs, and it does come with a lot of unfortunately unpredictable side effects.

Some people feel totally fine, watch their stubborn acne clear up, and enjoy cramp-free periods. Others have to deal with totally unpredictable mood swings, weight fluctuations, and real nasty breakouts. You never know how your body will react to synthetic hormones until you try them.

1. The Pill

Birth control pills are probably the most popular form of hormonal birth control, and for good reason. They're 99% effective in preventing pregnancy—if you use them perfectly.

Because accidentally forgetting your BC pills in your dorm room when you leave for Spring Break is wayyyy too easy, in reality, the pill is more like 91% effective, which is still pretty good.

Pros

• Cheap. The pill can cost anywhere from$0 to $50, depending on your insurance. And if you don’t have insurance, many health centers offer sliding-scale payment options, so you only pay what you can afford.
• Effective. Even if you're prone to forgetting a pill every now and then, it's still over 90% effective.
• Possibly wonderful side effects. Some people report skin clearing, bloat-reducing, and period-regulating benefits from the pill.

Cons

• Possible side effects from hell. Moodiness, weight fluctuations, unpredictable bleeds—the list goes on. Some people's bodies are more sensitive to synthetic hormones than others.
• Easy to forget. Not great for people who are REALLY bad at forgetting to take medicine regularly.

2. The Patch

Not a fan of taking pills? Meet the patch, a small, beige adhesive that you stick on your skin like a Band-Aid. It releases a steady stream of synthetic hormones into your system, just like the pill. Only instead of taking it every day, you leave it on for a week at a time, then replace it with a new one.

The patch is99% effective if—BIG if—you remember to change your patch weekly and make sure it's on correctly.

Pros

• Less terrifying side effects. Nausea and headaches are common, but they don't happen to everyone and usually resolve themselves in at least three months.
• Less frequent reminders. No daily or even weekly pill to take. You just have to remember to change your patch once a week.

Cons

• Not great for water-lovers. Because it can easily fall off in the water, it's not an ideal method for regular swimmers. Some brands of the patch can be used to skip your period altogether.
• More expensive. The patch is a little pricier, ranging from $0 to $150 depending on insurance. Most insurance plans provide the patch for free, but you still need a prescription from a doctor.

3. The Ring

The ring is a small, bendy plastic ring that you insert into your vagina. Once it's in there, it releases a low dose of hormones every day to prevent pregnancy. That's right, friend—no daily or weekly reminders needed.

Currently, two birth control rings exist:

• NuvaRing: which lasts up to five weeks and can be used to safely skip your visit with Auntie Flo.
• Annovera: which lasts for a whole freakin' year—but you have to take it out every three weeks for seven days so Auntie Flo can come to town.

Pros

• Super-effective. The ring is 99% effective when used perfectly (notice a pattern here?) and 91% effective if you forget to take it out every once in a while.
• Less maintenance. You get to worry about your birth control even LESS with only monthly reminders, depending on which ring you choose.

Cons

• Need time to get used to it. Side effects are still possible, and your body may take a few months to adjust.
• Expensive. It also teeters on the very expensive side, costing up to $2,200 for the Annovera. NuvaRing is more in the $200 range, and some are totally free with insurance.

4. The Shot

The Shot (a.k.a Depo-Provera) is a once-every-three-months injection of a synthetic hormone that thickens the cervical mucus to prevent pregnancy. What makes the shot a real star—other than the fact that you can put your BC on a quarterly rotation—is its effectiveness.

Even factoring in people who forget to take their shots on time, the shot is still about 94% effective (and 99% effective when used perfectly).

Pros

• It's uber-convenient (not to mention private). You only have to think about it four times a year, and because it's done in the privacy of a doctor's office, there's no hard evidence that you're on birth control for anyone to find.
• You don't have to worry about messing up. Because the shot is given to you by a professional, there's no way to screw it up.
• You'll get your period less often (and after a year, maybe never). And they'll be much lighter when you do get them.
• It has other health benefits. Beyond preventing pregnancy, the shot can also protect you from uterine cancer and ectopic pregnancies.

Cons

• Some not-so-great side effects. Most have to do with your period, like spotting and bleeding for longer, but some people also experience weight gain, headaches, and even depression.
• You have to wait 10 months to get pregnant after stopping. When and if you are ready to have kids, you'll have to wait a while after your last shot before trying to conceive.
• It's expensive. Some health insurance covers it for free, but if not, it can be up to $250 per shot.

5. The Implant

We've arrived at the level of get-it-and-forget-it birth control babes. The implant is a small rod (about the size of a matchstick) that's inserted under the skin of your upper arm. It releases progestin, which thickens the cervical mucus and prevents ovulation, for up to five, yes FIVE, freakin' years.

Can I get a hallelujah?

Because there is literally no room for user error, the implant is about 99% effective—the most foolproof method on this list.

Pros

• It's long-acting and low-maintenance. You get it once and don't have to worry about it for years.
• Respects your privacy (and your time). No condom wrappers or birth control pill packets to hide away—and no monthly reminders to help you forget.
• Your period may become lighter or disappear altogether. Bonus!

Cons

• More doctor visits. It has to be inserted and removed by a professional (ouch).
• You may start spotting. Irregular bleeding is suuuuper common within the first year, as are headaches, nausea, and breast pain,
• It's pricey. Getting the implant can cost up to $1,300, and removing it is around $300. BUT most insurance lowers the cost—or covers it completely.

Non-Hormonal Birth Control

Now, if you're wary of putting any more hormones into your body than you have to, there are a couple of non-hormonal methods available to you. They just may require a little more vigilance on your part.

1. Barrier Methods

Most barrier methods work by physically blocking sperm from getting to the egg. They're popular because they can be used on demand (no need to plan ahead), and they don't have any hormones. You can grab most of these for free or at super low cost at your campus health center. 

Barrier methods include:

• Condoms: They come in male and female/internal varieties, and you can often find them for free at your local campus health center. Just remember: condoms are only effective when used correctly, so make sure you know how to put them on (and take them off) before things get heated. And yes, condoms reduce the risk of both pregnancy and STIs.
• Diaphragms: This domed cup is inserted into the vagina before sex and covers the cervix to prevent sperm from getting through.
• Spermicide: This is a chemical that kills sperm on contact. It comes in foam, film, gel, suppositories, and creams, and you can find it over the counter at your local drugstore. Spermicide must be used with another barrier method to be effective. Just don't use it with the sponge as that already contains a spermicide.
• Sponge: The sponge is a small, disk-shaped piece of soft plastic with a spermicide in it. It's inserted into the vagina before sex and blocks sperm from getting to the egg. You can find it over the counter at your local drug store or online.
• Cervical cap: Like the diaphragm, this small cup is inserted into the vagina to cover the cervix and block sperm from reaching the egg. It needs to be used with spermicide, and it must be fitted by a healthcare professional.

Because they require some attention before, during and after sex, barrier methods are not quite as reliable as hormonal birth control options. If you choose to use barrier methods, understand that there's still a risk of pregnancy - and only condoms reduce the risk of transmitting STIs.

2. The Copper IUD

As it turns out, synthetic hormones aren't the only route to (more effective) pregnancy prevention. IUDs (or intrauterine devices) are small, T-shaped pieces of soft, flexible plastic that are inserted into the uterus and wrapped in copper.

Here's some weird science for ya: copper is toxic to sperm. So when you get a copper IUD, you can enjoy a whopping 99% effective rate for up to 12 years.

Outside of the copper armor, there are some hormonal IUD options. They work by releasing a small amount of progestin (a synthetic hormone) into your body, which thickens the cervical mucus to block sperm. They're just as effective as their copper-wielding counterparts, except they only last from 3 to 7 years, depending on which brand you get.

3. Fertility Awareness

And finally, we've come to the most "au naturel" of the birth control methods: fertility awareness.

Rather than implanting or inserting anything, you simply track your ovulation via basal body temperature and cervical mucus (usually using an app designed for FAM) to determine when you're most likely to get pregnant. When your most fertile days arrive, you either use a barrier method or avoid getting frisky altogether.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that FAM is about 76 to 88% effective. This is mostly due to human error (we're forgetful, sometimes messy creatures), so if you're looking for something with a higher success rate, this may not be the best method for you.

Choosing The Right Birth Control For You

The actual process of choosing birth control can feel kind of like a dark, mysterious labyrinth. And navigating that labyrinth is all about getting in tune with what works best for you in this season of life.

Set yourself up for sexual wellness success by being 100% honest about your birth control needs and preferences. Do you want something long-lasting, or are you okay with popping a pill every day? Can you handle remembering to take/change/insert something before sex, or do you need something that's more low-maintenance?

Your answers to these questions will help you zero in on the best contraception option for you and your body.

No method of birth control is perfect—or permanent. So whether you're just starting to have sex or you've been at it for years, make sure you revisit your contraception choices on a regular basis. As your body changes and your life circumstances evolve, so too should your birth control method.

About The Author

Emily Blackwood is a freelance journalist committed to answering the plaguing question of what makes us truly happy. Turns out, it's a lot. Her work has been published in SELF, HuffPost, and YourTango. You can learn more here.

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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. e.g. Planned Parenthood, CAPS, etc.