Resources — Bathtub Masturbation
Can My Vibrator Damage Or Desensitize My Clitoris?
Q: Dr. Shieva: What would you tell a patient whose uses sex toys with high-powered vibration for pleasure and is concerned about having damaged or desensitized nerve endings?
Can my vibrator damage the nerve endings of my clitoris?
People sometimes worry that if they use their vibrator too much that they're going to damage their clitoris or their nerve endings.
The truth is, I have had patients who have told me that because they use a vibrator so frequently, they are absolutely unable to have an orgasm with their partner - whether it's male or female, whether it's vaginal or clitoral, whether it's penis and vagina, or whether it's oral sex.
The good news is they have not caused any permanent damage, but they have changed their threshold for a short period of time. And they find that they need to continue to use that high intense vibration in order to achieve an orgasm.
What we recommend is to just stop using the vibrator and have external stimulation. This is a great way to have external stimulation because the WaterSlyde will stimulate your clitoris, but mostly your labia as well, which contains fibers from the clitoris.
So through gentle stimulation like this, you're really able to kind of allow those nerve endings to not feel like they need such a high intensity vibration. You haven't caused any damage - short or long term. But certainly if you find that you are unable to have an orgasm because you've been using a vibrator for so long, just lay off the vibrator for a couple of weeks and try something else.
Is the water pressure strong enough to give me an orgasm?
Interestingly some people worry that there might not be enough pressure generated from the WaterSlyde to mount an orgasm. That tells me that they really haven't learned their own anatomy and they haven't explored themselves.
We know that the clitoris is not just a little area of tissue but comes down the labia... and so stimulation of that entire area really leads to an intense build up. And many people will say that their orgasms are much more explosive, much more intense when it's done over a slightly longer period of time and gentler.
I've even had patients who have said that when they've consistently used vibrators or for example, a shower head their ability to have an orgasm then with a partner even through oral sex was really minimized because their threshold of intensity needed to be so much stronger something that their partner couldn't generate.
Whereas if you change it up and you have orgasms through the WaterSlyde as well where you're really enjoying it and you're languishing in it and you're allowing the water to stimulate all the parts of your clitoris not just that little part that we've been taught was the most important then you really can understand different sensations. So we really advocate for this not exclusively but certainly in addition to if not exclusively because it really appreciating your sexuality in a way that we were never really taught to do.
About Dr. Shieva
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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other health-care professional.
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WaterSlyde Review by Dr. Megan Stubbs
When it comes to pleasure products, the amount available can be daunting! Sometimes the price tag, control and buttons, or even the shape and size can make finding the right one for you seem like an overwhelming task. With the WaterSlyde by Lovability, look no further than your own bathroom!
What Is The WaterSlyde?
The WaterSlyde is a simple attachment that turns your bathtub faucet into your very own sex toy. The innovative design allows a gentler build up that isn’t typically found with traditional sex toys. Also, if you’ve had difficulty finding a toy because you experience painful sex, this might be the toy for you as you’re in control of the intensity and no penetration required! With its sleek and non-confrontational design, this is a toy you’ll want to check out.
Makes Bathtub Faucet Masturbation Easy
If you wanted to receive hands free water stimulation, you’d usually have to awkwardly scoot and wiggle your torso down to the end of your tub where the faucet was. Then you hopefully had enough room to open your legs or put them up against the wall for the water to access your vulva. Also, this was all done while the water was running. It isn’t a graceful sight to say the least. With the WaterSlyde, you can easily set the water to the temperature and flow of your choice, attach the device, and lay back and enjoy the flow.
Slow Pleasure For To Build Arousal
Many people I work with find warm water to be a relaxing sensation and that in turn can help your body relax and create its own lubrication. As some vulva owners often take longer to warm up to sexual arousal, the slow, steady trickle of water can help build arousal to a new level. This can be beneficial for people who experience a slower build to arousal, who are post-menopausal, or who want to have an extended play session with themselves.
Perfect Toy For Those With Limited Mobility
If you are someone who has mobility issues, The WaterSlyde is a great product to try. With many pleasure products on the market, they require some sort of active use—whether that is you holding the toy against yourself or the need to insert and remove the toy. With the WaterSlyde, you can set it and forget it! Well, not forget it, but forget the need to have to hold it against you. You can literally sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.
The Most Benign and Discreet Sex Toy
The sneaky genius behind the WaterSlyde is that if anyone finds it, they really aren’t too sure about what it is or what it is for; it is simply a sleek, colorful water-diverter, and not raunchy or explicit in any way. This can be beneficial in situations where sex toys are illegal (currently outlawed in two states), shared living situations, or travel. And since this is done in the privacy of the bath, no one is going to think twice if they hear the water running—just make sure not to flood the space!
My WaterSlyde Tips & Tricks
As with any kind of pleasure product, they come with a few ground rules. Make sure that you check the temperature of the water you’re using. Too hot you can burn your sensitive tissues and too cold may cause cramping or discomfort. Also, be sure that the water stream is not going inside of the vagina. While there is nothing inherently dangerous about water near the vagina, a direct stream into it can cause discomfort and upset the balance of bacteria and lead to yeast infections. It’s why we don’t recommend douching. Also, be mindful whenever you step in or out of the tub. You could slip, especially if still not fully back to earth during your post orgasm bliss, so stay alert!
Make The WaterSlyde Part Of Your Pleasure Routine
If you haven’t had the opportunity to explore with water play, consider adding the WaterSlyde to your bag of tricks. It’s affordable, fits most tub faucets, accessible, discreet, travel safe, and doesn't require batteries!
About The Author
Dr. Megan Stubbs is an award-winning speaker and certified sexologist who believes that sex should be fun, using her lighthearted, intelligent, and humorous delivery to make it happen.. You can find her online on her website or on Instagram!
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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other health-care professional.
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