
How To (Safely) Make The Most Of Every Intimate Encounter You'll Have In College
Everyone knows college is an era of experimentation — romance included. Before you start exploring your options, here are a few things to keep in mind...How To Access Every Kind Of Birth Control On Campus
Between internships, classes, and making all sorts of grandiose decisions about your future, babies are probably the last thing you have on the brain. But if you’re sexually active (and not trying to become a parent anytime soon), then birth control should definitely be on your radar.
Though it feels like your campus health center is only equipped to handle the occasional cold or flu, they can actually hook you up with some pretty sweet birth control options, too. And whether they advertise it, many colleges offer free or low-cost birth control to students—even if you don't have insurance.
So if you’re sexually active or think you might want to be, consider this your birth control roadmap, guiding you to all the resources you need to make informed decisions about your sexual health.
Contraceptives Do Not Prevent STIs
Before we dive in, remember that contraceptives are designed to keep an unwanted pregnancy at bay but they will not protect you from STIs. Condoms are the only form of birth control that reduce the risk of pregnancy and STIs. And while condoms are highly effective at protecting against most STIs (such as chlamydia and gonorrhea), they do not protect you from all STIs (for example, herpes, genital warts, and syphilis can spread from skin-to-skin contact). So wrap it up, babe, and get familiar with how to protect against, test for, and treat STIs.
Types Of Birth Control (And How To Find It)
The landscape of birth control has changed a lot in recent years, with new choices becoming available and old favorites becoming easier to access. But as much as science has advanced the birth control buffet, one v-serious caveat remains: no method is 100% effective.
Risk of pregnancy and STIs can never be completely eliminated when it comes to sex. But using birth control can help reduce the likelihood.
There are dozens of contraceptives out there, but they tend to fall into two camps:
- Hormonal: Methods that rely on shifting your hormones to prevent pregnancy.
- Non-Hormonal: Methods that physically block sperm from getting to your eggs.
The kind of birth control you ultimately choose is a very personal decision, and there are pros and cons to each method. All will require a prescription from a doctor, which you can visit at:
- Your campus health center
- A free or low-cost clinic like Planned Parenthood
- Your primary care physician or your OBGYN, if you have one
- Online via a virtual birth control service like Nurx.
Hormonal Birth Control
This kind of contraceptive uses synthetically made hormones to prevent your ovaries from releasing eggs. Different methods do this in different ways, but no eggs = no pregnancy.
While hormonal birth control is pretty effective at keeping that bun out of the oven, it doesn't protect against STIs, and it does come with a lot of unfortunately unpredictable side effects.
Some people feel totally fine, watch their stubborn acne clear up, and enjoy cramp-free periods. Others have to deal with totally unpredictable mood swings, weight fluctuations, and real nasty breakouts. You never know how your body will react to synthetic hormones until you try them.
1. The Pill
Birth control pills are probably the most popular form of hormonal birth control, and for good reason. They're 99% effective in preventing pregnancy—if you use them perfectly.
Because accidentally forgetting your BC pills in your dorm room when you leave for Spring Break is wayyyy too easy, in reality, the pill is more like 91% effective, which is still pretty good.
Pros
- Cheap. The pill can cost anywhere from$0 to $50, depending on your insurance. And if you don’t have insurance, many health centers offer sliding-scale payment options, so you only pay what you can afford.
- Effective. Even if you're prone to forgetting a pill every now and then, it's still over 90% effective.
- Possibly wonderful side effects. Some people report skin clearing, bloat-reducing, and period-regulating benefits from the pill.
Cons
- Possible side effects from hell. Moodiness, weight fluctuations, unpredictable bleeds—the list goes on. Some people's bodies are more sensitive to synthetic hormones than others.
- Easy to forget. Not great for people who are REALLY bad at forgetting to take medicine regularly.
2. The Patch
Not a fan of taking pills? Meet the patch, a small, beige adhesive that you stick on your skin like a Band-Aid. It releases a steady stream of synthetic hormones into your system, just like the pill. Only instead of taking it every day, you leave it on for a week at a time, then replace it with a new one.
The patch is99% effective if—BIG if—you remember to change your patch weekly and make sure it's on correctly.
Pros
- Less terrifying side effects. Nausea and headaches are common, but they don't happen to everyone and usually resolve themselves in at least three months.
- Less frequent reminders. No daily or even weekly pill to take. You just have to remember to change your patch once a week.
Cons
- Not great for water-lovers. Because it can easily fall off in the water, it's not an ideal method for regular swimmers. Some brands of the patch can be used to skip your period altogether.
- More expensive. The patch is a little pricier, ranging from $0 to $150 depending on insurance. Most insurance plans provide the patch for free, but you still need a prescription from a doctor.
3. The Ring
The ring is a small, bendy plastic ring that you insert into your vagina. Once it's in there, it releases a low dose of hormones every day to prevent pregnancy. That's right, friend—no daily or weekly reminders needed.
Currently, two birth control rings exist:
- NuvaRing: which lasts up to five weeks and can be used to safely skip your visit with Auntie Flo.
- Annovera: which lasts for a whole freakin' year—but you have to take it out every three weeks for seven days so Auntie Flo can come to town.
Pros
- Super-effective. The ring is 99% effective when used perfectly (notice a pattern here?) and 91% effective if you forget to take it out every once in a while.
- Less maintenance. You get to worry about your birth control even LESS with only monthly reminders, depending on which ring you choose.
Cons
- Need time to get used to it. Side effects are still possible, and your body may take a few months to adjust.
- Expensive. It also teeters on the very expensive side, costing up to $2,200 for the Annovera. NuvaRing is more in the $200 range, and some are totally free with insurance.
4. The Shot
The Shot (a.k.a Depo-Provera) is a once-every-three-months injection of a synthetic hormone that thickens the cervical mucus to prevent pregnancy. What makes the shot a real star—other than the fact that you can put your BC on a quarterly rotation—is its effectiveness.
Even factoring in people who forget to take their shots on time, the shot is still about 94% effective (and 99% effective when used perfectly).
Pros
- It's uber-convenient (not to mention private). You only have to think about it four times a year, and because it's done in the privacy of a doctor's office, there's no hard evidence that you're on birth control for anyone to find.
- You don't have to worry about messing up. Because the shot is given to you by a professional, there's no way to screw it up.
- You'll get your period less often (and after a year, maybe never). And they'll be much lighter when you do get them.
- It has other health benefits. Beyond preventing pregnancy, the shot can also protect you from uterine cancer and ectopic pregnancies.
Cons
- Some not-so-great side effects. Most have to do with your period, like spotting and bleeding for longer, but some people also experience weight gain, headaches, and even depression.
- You have to wait 10 months to get pregnant after stopping. When and if you are ready to have kids, you'll have to wait a while after your last shot before trying to conceive.
- It's expensive. Some health insurance covers it for free, but if not, it can be up to $250 per shot.
5. The Implant
We've arrived at the level of get-it-and-forget-it birth control babes. The implant is a small rod (about the size of a matchstick) that's inserted under the skin of your upper arm. It releases progestin, which thickens the cervical mucus and prevents ovulation, for up to five, yes FIVE, freakin' years.
Can I get a hallelujah?
Because there is literally no room for user error, the implant is about 99% effective—the most foolproof method on this list.
Pros
- It's long-acting and low-maintenance. You get it once and don't have to worry about it for years.
- Respects your privacy (and your time). No condom wrappers or birth control pill packets to hide away—and no monthly reminders to help you forget.
- Your period may become lighter or disappear altogether. Bonus!
Cons
- More doctor visits. It has to be inserted and removed by a professional (ouch).
- You may start spotting. Irregular bleeding is suuuuper common within the first year, as are headaches, nausea, and breast pain,
- It's pricey. Getting the implant can cost up to $1,300, and removing it is around $300. BUT most insurance lowers the cost—or covers it completely.
Pros
- It's a backup for your backup. If you miss a birth control pill, you can make sure you’re always covered.
- The one-time cost is relatively inexpensive. ECs with levonorgestrel cost around $40, while pills with ulipristal acetate are a little pricier at $50.
- It's super convenient to grab when you're in a pinch. Just make a quick appointment with your doc or swing by the store.
Cons
- It doesn't prevent pregnancy as well as other contraceptives. EC is not a replacement for every day pregnancy prevention.
- You may experience some not-so-fun side effects. Spotting or nausea is temporary but common.
- It may not work for everyone. Levonorgestrel pills are less effective if you weigh over 165 pounds, and ulipristal acetate pills are less effective if you weigh over 195 pounds.
Non-Hormonal Birth Control
Now, if you're wary of putting any more hormones into your body than you have to, there are a couple of non-hormonal methods available to you. They just may require a little more vigilance on your part.
1. Barrier Methods
Most barrier methods work by physically blocking sperm from getting to the egg. They're popular because they can be used on demand (no need to plan ahead), and they don't have any hormones. You can grab most of these for free or at super low cost at your campus health center.
Barrier methods include:
- Condoms: They come in male and female/internal varieties, and you can often find them for free at your local campus health center. Just remember: condoms are only effective when used correctly, so make sure you know how to put them on (and take them off) before things get heated. And yes, condoms reduce the risk of both pregnancy and STIs.
- Diaphragms: This domed cup is inserted into the vagina before sex and covers the cervix to prevent sperm from getting through.
- Spermicide: This is a chemical that kills sperm on contact. It comes in foam, film, gel, suppositories, and creams, and you can find it over the counter at your local drugstore. Spermicide must be used with another barrier method to be effective. Just don't use it with the sponge as that already contains a spermicide.
- Sponge: The sponge is a small, disk-shaped piece of soft plastic with a spermicide in it. It's inserted into the vagina before sex and blocks sperm from getting to the egg. You can find it over the counter at your local drug store or online.
- Cervical cap: Like the diaphragm, this small cup is inserted into the vagina to cover the cervix and block sperm from reaching the egg. It needs to be used with spermicide, and it must be fitted by a healthcare professional.
Because they require some attention before, during and after sex, barrier methods are not quite as reliable as hormonal birth control options. If you choose to use barrier methods, understand that there's still a risk of pregnancy - and only condoms reduce the risk of transmitting STIs.
2. The Copper IUD
As it turns out, synthetic hormones aren't the only route to (more effective) pregnancy prevention. IUDs (or intrauterine devices) are small, T-shaped pieces of soft, flexible plastic that are inserted into the uterus and wrapped in copper.
Here's some weird science for ya: copper is toxic to sperm. So when you get a copper IUD, you can enjoy a whopping 99% effective rate for up to 12 years.
Outside of the copper armor, there are some hormonal IUD options. They work by releasing a small amount of progestin (a synthetic hormone) into your body, which thickens the cervical mucus to block sperm. They're just as effective as their copper-wielding counterparts, except they only last from 3 to 7 years, depending on which brand you get.
3. Fertility Awareness
And finally, we've come to the most "au naturel" of the birth control methods: fertility awareness.
Rather than implanting or inserting anything, you simply track your ovulation via basal body temperature and cervical mucus (usually using an app designed for FAM) to determine when you're most likely to get pregnant. When your most fertile days arrive, you either use a barrier method or avoid getting frisky altogether.
The most important thing to keep in mind is that FAM is about 76 to 88% effective. This is mostly due to human error (we're forgetful, sometimes messy creatures), so if you're looking for something with a higher success rate, this may not be the best method for you.
Choosing The Right Birth Control For You
The actual process of choosing birth control can feel kind of like a dark, mysterious labyrinth. And navigating that labyrinth is all about getting in tune with what works best for you in this season of life.
Set yourself up for sexual wellness success by being 100% honest about your birth control needs and preferences. Do you want something long-lasting, or are you okay with popping a pill every day? Can you handle remembering to take/change/insert something before sex, or do you need something that's more low-maintenance?
Your answers to these questions will help you zero in on the best contraception option for you and your body.
No method of birth control is perfect—or permanent. So whether you're just starting to have sex or you've been at it for years, make sure you revisit your contraception choices on a regular basis. As your body changes and your life circumstances evolve, so too should your birth control method.
About The Author
Emily Blackwood is a freelance journalist committed to answering the plaguing question of what makes us truly happy. Turns out, it's a lot. Her work has been published in SELF, HuffPost, and YourTango. You can learn more here.
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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other healthcare professional. e.g. Planned Parenthood, CAPS, etc.

Your Guide To STIs (And How To Protect, Test & Treat Them)
Look babe, no one wants to get an STI. But the truth is, they’re uber common—so much so that about 1 in 5 people will get one at some point in their lives (big yikes). While the patriarchy wants us to be ashamed of them, the reality is that STIs are nothing to be embarrassed about. It can happen to literally anyone.

Getting an STI doesn't mean you're gross, slutty, or dirty— it just means you're human. And thanks to modern medicine, most types of STIs are easily treatable.
So if you think you might have one, don't freak out. We've got you covered with everything you need to know about the most common STIs so you can get tested, treated, and on with your life ASAP.
What are STIs? Are STIs different from STDs?
An STI, aka a sexually transmitted infection, is the umbrella term doctors use to refer to any infection that's passed from one person to another during sexual contact. That includes everything from vaginal, anal, and oral sex to skin-to-skin contact (like genital touching).
STD used to be the go-to term, but the word "disease" creates a lot of unnecessary stigmas and isn't entirely accurate anyway. Diseases are only a possible result of an infection, and not all infections will lead to disease. Regardless of which term is used, STI or STD, people are referencing the exact same thing: infections that get passed from one person to another during sex.
Which leaves us with this very important fact: you can have an STI and not know it. Being proactive about your sexual health means getting tested regularly, even if you don't have any symptoms.
What are the most common types of STIs? Bacterial STIs vs. Viral STIsExplained

Now there are dozens of types of STIs out there, but most can be placed in to one of two categories: bacterial or viral.
Bacterial STIs
Bacterial STIs are caused by (you guessed it) bacteria. The good news is that they're usually treatable with antibiotics. The bad news is that if left untreated, some types of bacterial STIs can lead to long-term health problems like infertility.
Here are the four most common bacterial STIs:
Chlamydia
Chlamydia is very sneaky and doesn’t leave a lot of evidence. Most people don't show any signs or think it’s caused by something else.
Signs & Symptoms
- Pain or burning when you pee
- Feeling the urge to pee more than normal
- Pain during sex
- Abnormal vaginal discharge ( either a strong smell or a yellowish color)
- Bleeding between periods
- Lower belly pain
- Pain, discharge, or burning around the butthole
- Diarrhea
How To Treat
Treating chlamydia is just as easy as getting it. A week of antibiotics will usually do the trick, as will notifying your partners. Chlamydia can spread like wildfire.
Gonorrhea
Nicknamed "the clap" due to the painful and ineffective early treatments for men (which involved clapping - yes, clapping - both sides of the penis at the same time, gonorrhea is also silent, especially in women.
People with penises are way more likely to have symptoms, and they'll typically begin a week after being infected. So make sure you and your partner have an honest, shame-free discussion if anything gets weird post-coitus.
Signs & Symptoms
- Pain or burning when you pee
- Bloody or yellowish vaginal discharge
- Bleeding between periods
- Anal itching (if the infection was transmitted via anal sex)
- Anal discharge
- Pain when you poop
- Sore throat (if the infection was transmitted via oral sex)
How To Treat
Antibiotics are back to save the day once again! Sometimes one pill is all it takes to rid you of the 'rhea, and others will require a week of treatment. Again, make sure all of your partners are informed and avoid getting frisky until your meds are gone.
Trichomoniasis
Now here's one you're probably not on a first-name basis with. Trichomoniasis (or Trich) is another often symptomless STI that can take anywhere from 3 days to a month to make itself known.
But if left untreated, trich can cause vaginitis—a vagina inflammation that can lead to a whole host of uncomfy feels like painful urination and nonstop itching.
Signs & Symptoms
- Abnormal vaginal discharge (look for green, yellow, and gray coloring as well as any frothiness or foul smells)
- Bloody vaginal discharge
- Itching or irritation around your vagina
- Genital swelling
- Painful sex
- Feeling the urge to pee a lot
Be careful of these symptoms because they often come and go, which can make realizing you have an STI a real pain.
How To Treat
Antibiotics are your new BFF. Only one dose of trich-fighting meds is needed to get rid of this STI, along with notifying your partner. No one wants to do the dance of passing trich back and forth.
Syphilis
If your health class hasn't changed since I went to high school (and I'm guessing it hasn't), this STI stirs a deeper sense of panic. Yes, painless sores are a possible symptom, but not everyone gets them.
Syphilis is actually as easily treatable as the other infections we've mentioned, but only if caught early. If left untreated, there's a small chance that it can cause more permanent damage to your internal organs.
Signs & Symptoms
Syphilis has different stages, and they can overlap, which makes decoding what stage you're in a little confusing. Look out for:
- Painless sores (also called a chancre) around your genitals or mouth
- Non-itchy rashes on your palms, soles of your feet, and other bodily parts
- Mild flu-like symptoms like a slight fever, sore throat, and muscle aches
How To Treat
If you catch it early, syphilis can be taken care of with some antibiotics. Treatment is still possible in the later stages, but it may cause more complications.
Viral STIs
This is where things get a little more serious. Viral STIs are caused by viruses, which cannot be cured. Now I know that brings up a lot of fear, but with the right medication and precaution, you can absolutely manage life with a viral STI.
Remember the most important thing: living with an STI doesn't make you any less worthy of love or great sex.

Here are the most common viral STIs:
Genital Herpes
Herpes is kinda like your first big crush or an iconic scene from your favorite movie—it stays with you for life. And you probably know more people with herpes than you realize.
Over half of Americans have oral herpes, and 1 in 6 have genital herpes. So if you're sexually active, getting it is a real possibility.
Signs & Symptoms
- Itchy, painful blisters around your genitals, butt, or even the inside of your thighs
- A burning sensation if pee gets on one of the sores
- Trouble peeing (due to the sores blocking your urethra)
- Itching
- Genital pain
- Swollen glands in your throat, under your arms, or in your pelvic area
- Fever
- Headache
- Chills
- Feeling achy
- Fatigue
- Cold sores
These symptoms come during what's called a herpes outbreak. Outbreaks last about 2 to 4 weeks and lessen in severity over time.The first is always the worst, and some people stop having outbreaks altogether.
Another thing to note is that genital herpes is caused by one of two types of viruses: herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1) or herpes simplex virus type 2 (HSV-2).
HSV-1 is more active in the face (hence, more cold sores), and HSV-2 is more active in the genitals. So if HSV-1 infects your genitals, your case may be milder and harder to spot. The same goes for HSV-2 infecting your face around the lips and mouth.
How To Treat
As we said, there is currently no cure for herpes, and unfortunately, it will remain with you for life. But medication can shorten and even prevent outbreaks. Herpes is more annoying than harmful, but warm baths, loose clothes, and pain relievers can make living with sores a little easier.
Dating with herpes means being honest about your STI status. You'll have to avoid having sex during outbreaks, always use condoms, and inform any potential partners before you head to the bedroom.People will be more understanding than you think, but if someone tries to give you grief, just kick 'em to the curb.
Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
As it turns out, Ali Wong was right. If you've had sex, you've probably had HPV. Most cases have zero symptoms, aren't harmful, and will just disappear on their own. But some can cause genital warts and even cancer.
Signs & Symptoms
Here's the deal, friend: most HPV infections show no signs until there’s amore serious health issue. Getting tested for HPV regularly, along with keeping up with your Pap tests, is crucial to keeping the more severe forms of HPV at bay.
How To Treat
If you do get HPV, there's a good chance (90% according to theCDC) it will go away on its own in two years without health problems.Because there's no treatment for HPV, regularly testing and getting vaccinated are your best tools to fight against this STI.
How To Protect Yourself Against STIs
You don't have to wear a chastity belt or swear off sex forever to avoid STIs. Yes, the only way to truly prevent ever getting one is to practice abstinence, but that's not exactly being realistic if we're being honest with ourselves. The next best thing: practice safe sex, babe. That means enjoying allllll the over-the-pants lovin' and saving the rest for later.

But practicing safer sex can expand what bedroom treats you indulge in while reducing your risk of transmission. That looks like:
- Wearing condoms. This goes for all sexual activity where you're exposing your mouth or your genitals (i.e., vaginal, anal, and oral sex).
- Getting tested regularly. Aim for at least every year per the CDC or every time you add in a new partner.
- Being honest. Yes, an STI talk may kill the vibe for a moment, but it's necessary for not just protecting your physical health but your emotional and mental health, too. So don't shy away from asking the big questions.
End The STI Stigma
If I had to shout one thing off a mountaintop, it would be this: STIS ARE NOTHING TO BE EMBARRASSED ABOUT. They happen, just like getting a parking ticket or forgetting to unplug your straightener.
So please, if you get an STI, don't lock it away like it's some big shameful secret. Being honest about your diagnosis will slow down the spread, and embracing the fact that STIs are a part of an active sex life will empower others to let go of the shame once and for all.
About The Author
Emily Blackwood is a freelance journalist committed to answering the plaguing question of what makes us truly happy. Turns out, it's a lot. Her work has been published in SELF, HuffPost, and YourTango. You can learn more here.
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Medical Disclaimer: The information provided here is intended for educational and informative purposes only and is not intended to serve as medical or professional advice. If you have any concerns or questions about your health, you should always consult with a physician or other health-care professional.

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